I decided to give the whole online dating thing a try again. This time, though, I've joined a site specifically for Christians. You'd think that I'd meet some really great God-fearing, Jesus-following men. Nope. That's not to say that I haven't met some nice guys and men who do love Jesus (because I have), but for the most part---they've been weird. I could seriously write a book about my experiences thus far. But, that's not what's got me frustrated. No, what has me frustrated is the lack of conversational skills these and other men who aren't so weird have...or should I say don't have.
It's simple. One of us asks a question, the person responds, and asks a question themselves. Is that so hard to do? Apparently. I don't understand. Do you not want to get to know the other person? How can you do that if you don't ask any stinking questions? For example, I was chatting through messenger with this one guy and it seemed to be going well. We had a nice dialogue. Then, he had to leave so we began to email one another. Suddenly, the questions all became one-sided....I was asking and getting only 2-3 sentences back without any kind of inquiry. Now, is it that he's no longer interested and isn't comfortable or confident enough to just be honest about that? Cause if that's the case---fine! I'd rather know; it's not going to devastate me or even really cause a ripple in my life at this point. If he is interested, what's his deal? It's not as if I want to talk about myself all the time or brag about who I am and what I've done...I just want someone to show some interest, some curiosity, something. UGH. If there happen to be any men out there who are reading this let me offer some friendly advice: relationship requires some give and take. As women, we want you to know who we are...and quite frankly, the way to find out who we are is to pay attention and ask questions. Just do it!
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